Mom Fail? Nope.

I had my first “I’m not doing enough, what if my kid gets behind?” moment the other day.

It actually knocked the wind out of me.

It was over a really simple small motor skill that I was surprised Nicolas couldn’t figure out.

I went to bed thinking about it and got up the next day determined to help him master the skill w an activity I made for him.

Basically I realized the next day what a freak I was being.

Here I am an “expert” in Early Childhood Development/Education.

I should know better.

One if my dearest friends posts this quote on Facebook and the timing could not have been more perfect.

I really need to relax and just enjoy EVERY little moment, it’s not a race and all kids develop and grow at their own pace.

And I really do know better.

I just forgot for a minute.

I’m so thankful for my “mommy tribe” who seem to know when I need to hear the exact right thing.

Oh. And he did end up mastering the motor skill. As evidenced here.

(But that’s not really the point if this post) 

Sometimes, We Forget

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This weekend we went to a local street fair.

As we were walking, a bee landed on Nico.

We swatted it away and then I wondered aloud, “Gee, do you think he could be allergic? Has he ever been sting by a bee?”

Paul replied, “Good question. I know I’m not allergic. Are you?”

I answered, “I don’t think I am, but my dad is, so Nico could be.”

*blink* *blink*

Yes, that conversation really happened.

It happens all the time.

We actually DO forget that our son is not our biological child.

The love runs deep.

I hope he inherits that trait from us 

The Crew

Nicolas and I were playing this afternoon and he started lining his stuffed crew of friends up.
He began to get frustrated when it wasn’t going as he planned so he asked for my help getting them all around him.
Nico was pretty specific about their placement.
Then he called Coco over and this little love fest began.
Serious cuteness, my friends, serious cuteness.
It is so much fun watching these two together.

Kiss Me!

Aunt Amy got Nico this super cute shirt to wear for St. Patrick’s Day.

I wanted him to wear a little leprechaun hat but this kid wasn’t having it.

He is slightly obsessed with this fedora, so much so that I need to buy another one…or two or three. This one is close to coming apart.

He was NOT interested in taking pictures at first. This one is actually the first snap I took.

He is signing the word “cookie”.

That’s right, I bribe my baby with cookies to get him to sit for pictures.

Don’t judge me. Please. 


On March 15, 2013 Nicolas was placed in our home as an adoptive placement.

We had a one week transitional period where we had long and short visits with and without his Foster family, whom he had been with since about 3 wks old.

We fell in love with this family. They are a HUGE part of Nico’s life today. They will always be part of our family. In fact we just spent the afternoon in the park with them yesterday.


I cannot believe it has been a year since this beautiful boy joined our family.

It feels like he has always been with us. I can hardly remember life before him.

I wish I could find more pictures for this post. Paul reorganized stuff on the computer and u can’t find the one of him and Nicolas that I love so much. It’s of an early visit during his 1 week transition and it’s perfect.

So you will have to settle for this one of me and Nico. It was the first time either of us held him. It was our first meeting on March 7, 2013.

I love this picture. I knew the minute we laid eyes on him that he was ours. My face is crazy, with JOY and his expression is one he gives me almost daily, I call it his, “uh, seriously?” face.

He is precious.

I love this child. 

Our Little Girl

Coco is the sweetest little Chiweenie in the whole universe.

Seriously, I doubt dogs come better than this one.

She is our first baby, together, and we love her so much.

I keep thanking my lucky stars that as we grow our family, and foster children, she has so beautifully accepted new kids. Her love knows no limits and she is compassionate and sweet and gives love so freely.

I’m so grateful that she is a part of our family. What a blessing she is.

Yep. She’s adorable. 

His Way

This kid is a constant blur.

He is always so busy “working”.

Moving. Stacking. Lining things in rows.

It is a rare thing to see him sitting still. It’s like he wakes up with a list if things to accomplish and is not stopping until he has checked it off his To Do list.

Today he was ALL about balancing balls.

I love this age.

I also know that this is my golden opportunity. I need to pounce on this “sense of order” thing and seize the teachable moment.

The art of “pick up and put away”.


Right now Nico loves to help pick up and put away toys.

He thinks it’s a game.

All those months of organizing his toys for him are paying off. He KNOWS where things go and he is actually putting them in their place.

Yep, this is big stuff for my little guy.

I’m one proud mama. 

Happening Now

I was doing REALLY well keeping up w our private blog, for a couple of months..
Then we had a devastating loss.
The little boy we were Fostering and were hoping to adopt was placed with a distant relative.
We found out one day and he was gone the next. No notice. At. All. Just gone.
To say our world was rocked is a serious understatement.
But we KNOW that the Foster Adopt program is how we are going to add to our family.
So even though our faith was shaken for a minute we decided to press forward.
We have fostered 6 children since December 2012.
We are now in the process of ADOPTING this little guy. 
He has been with us since March and his adoption will be final in September.
The CRAZY thing is that he looks EXACTLY like Big Daddy.
God had His hands in this one, my friends.
This is just the beginning of our happily ever after.
I cannot wait till everything is final so I can show you ALL of  his cute face.
Speaking of faces, mine has looked like THAT since I found out he was being placed with our family for adoption.
Seriously. Every. Picture.
I look like I am going to EAT my baby…sometimes I just nibble on him, he is delicious!!
Anyway, I felt like I needed to do a quick update. 
I am feeling more like blogging again. 
It may have something to do with the fact that I get to see my two bloggy besties MiMi and Myya next week.
Big Daddy has a little business trip and Little Boo, Coco and I are tagging along, so we get to hang out with the girls and their families.
MiMyMa…mini style! Woot!!
We are still Fostering and even though Adoption is our end goal we plan to help as many kids as we can along the way.

I Confess…I Am Blessed

I Confess…

Today is Big Daddy’s Birthday and there are so many things I truly love about him.

I love how he works so hard to take care of our family and provide us with comfort and safety. He has an ugly long commute in a car that is falling apart but he never complains. He picks up extra shifts whenever he can so we can do fun things and see fun places.


I REALLY love that he is always up for trying something new, like a mud run…


I love that he is handy and can do DIRTY jobs like maintaining our cars…


I love that he is also really sweet with Coco, she is def a daddy’s girl…


I love how kind and sweet he is with my Mima. He always takes the time for a story she has told a million times especially the one where she met him before me and knew he would be perfect for me. Which isn’t true, but he always smiles and says, “Yep, you knew before any of us that we were a perfect match, thank you for that.”


I love how he is handling the teen years with our darling daughter. It has been rough to watch them from afar but he is taking it all in stride and their relationship is a beautiful thing.


I Confess…

She really is growing up soooo fast, she turned 17 yesterday…these days are long gone but she is still and always will be his little girl. I love the work he put into her early years, the Daddy/Daughter dates and always being the one to take her to and from school. This is one of my fave pics of our little family (you can see me in the reflection of his sunglasses).


I Confess…

He is my best friend. There is no one I would rather spend time with than him. It doesn’t even matter what we are doing…as long as we are together…


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I Confess…

We moved here to be closer to family and be a bigger part of our nieces and nephews lives. I love love love that the boys will call Big Daddy to do something with them for Scouts or just to see if he can take them to the skate park. The love they have for him and the love he has for them is a beautiful thing.

He is also ridiculously handsome…just saying.


I Confess…

I even think this face is sexy…I am easy like that.


Happy Birthday to my wonderful, smart, sexy, funny, generous, supportive, loving, handsome, brilliant, HILARIOUS, fantastic husband. My Happily Ever After! I love love love you, I am so thankful to have you as my best friend and my everything. Thanks for loving me the way that you do, it is perfectly perfect. I am so blessed. 

Dental Anxiety?

I use to really enjoy going to the dentist. Getting my teeth cleaned, walking away with a prize and I especially loved hearing that my smile was perfect. No need for braces on this girl.

Then I had a dental emergency in my young adult years. My wisdom teeth came in FAST and broke a molar. I didn’t have dental insurance and the broken tooth wasn’t taken care of and abscessed. The pain was unbearable. By the time I went in to the dentist the only option left was to have the tooth removed. Three weeks later I had my wisdom teeth removed and suddenly I found myself scared to go to the dentist.

For the first time in my life I had a serious dental anxiety and honestly, I am nervous about going ever since. From one bad dental experience in my life, I haven;t had a serious problem since, but I STILL carry anxiety.

After talking to family and friends I found out I was not alone. A lot of people have dental anxiety.

A quick search on Top Dentists lead me to this VERY helpful information about Dental Anxiety, so I thought I would share it with y’all…

“Nothing personal, Doc, but I hate the dentist!” Have you ever said this? Dentists hear it every day. Most don’t take it personally because they understand that many people have a fear – or even phobia – of the dentist, which most likely stems from past dental baggage and unpleasant experiences.

Many of today’s dentists try to help people enjoy the process of dental care by minimizing discomfort. They know that many patients had bad experiences with fillings or tooth extractions as a kid. Even though today’s techniques are much different, these phobias become ingrained in people.

Combatting Dental PhobiasMany dentists now use nitrous oxide as a mild sedative to facilitate relaxation. Patients also get flavored topical anesthetics that are applied for five minutes and completely anesthetize the tissue before they get injections that will numb them up. Today’s treatment rooms are also much more comfortable. Patients can wear sunglasses to decrease visual stimulation and listen to music through headphones. This is called audio analgesia. These types of visual and auditory analgesia help to take the edge off.

Another cool trick: when a dentist gives an injection, they can wiggle your lip or use a machine to vibrate the tissue to further confuse the nerves, so you feel wiggling and vibration and not pain.

Medication to Calm the Fear
Many dentists are now using anxiolytic agents (in pill form) to relax patients before and during their appointments. These drugs make people feel sleepy and help produce a more relaxed state so their dental work can be completed. These medications include Valium, Alprazolam, Ativan and Clonazepam, as well as sleeping agents like Halcion, Sonata and Ambien.

Lastly, there is intra-venous sedation, which uses sedative hypnotics and muscle relaxants to fully sedate people for their dentistry. Most people are familiar with this because it’s what’s often used for wisdom tooth extractions.

So don’t let your fear keep you out of the dentist’s chair! Instead, openly discuss your fears with your dentist and allow him to help you figure out what will make you comfortable while you receive the treatment you need.

If you also suffer from dental anxiety I totally recommend using Top Dentists to help you find the perfect Dentist for you that will help calm your fears and provide you with extra gentle dental care.